What is Guru Poornima or Guru Purnima ( Read about is @ http://www.hinduism.8k.com/gurupurnima.html ).
Monday, July 30, 2007
Saturday, July 28, 2007
A Monk at Dalai Lama's place at Darmadsala
The Buddha Statue at Dalai Lama's palce
Karmapalapa's place (The 17th Living Buddha Garmaba [Karmapa])
Using Film Speed Effectively
So you have this great new camera. Now you're standing in front of a display of more film that you've ever seen. All you want to do is take some great family photos but you don't know where to start. Here's short guide to help you get started.
Film speed is a number that represents the film's sensitively to light. The higher the number the more sensitive to light, in that the less light is needed to take a well exposed photo. The number is also an indicator of the detail you will receive from the negative. The higher the number the more likely that you'll see a graininess to the print when enlarged. Film speed goes from 25 to 1600 speed film.
25 to 200 Best for still life and portrait work, in studio conditions where the lighting is controlled. This is not the film for family shots indoors even with a camera mounted flash. You'd really need a complete lighting set up to use this film effectively. 200 speed film is very good for outdoor sunny conditions when you're trying to get a shot of a beautiful landscape. It offers excellent detail and color saturation.
400 Considered the all purpose film. Most films touted as all subject or general purpose are really 400 speed film. When in doubt use 400 speed film. Though you may still be using your camera mounted flash in room lighting conditions. Also good for outdoor conditions, will give you some flexibility in darker conditions and where you are trying to capture a moving subject.
800 to 1200 Made for capturing fast moving subjects in all types of lighting situations. People running, playing ball, etc. This is the film you want if you want to freeze frame the action of a baseball game. This film speed can be used for capturing fast moving wildlife, like birds, but you will see less detail if you enlarge above a 16 by 20 size.
1600 This film is for super high speed shots. Unless you shooting a car or boat race you probably won't need this film. Don't use this for nature and landscape images the lack of detail will be obvious in enlargements.
Most of the time you'll only need a 400 speed film for basic snapshots. But it doesn't hurt to use the other speeds for special occasions, you'll notice a difference.
Copyright 2004 Kelly Paal Kelly Paal is a Freelance Nature and Landscape Photographer, exhibiting nationally and internationally. Recently she started her own business Kelly Paal Photography (www.kellypaalphotography.com). She has an educational background in photography, business, and commercial art. She enjoys applying graphic design and photography principles to her web design.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
This was one of my best travel I did in India with my friends and office mates from India. It was an ad-hoc plan and we left to Chandigarh and then to darmadsala (where Dalai Lama lives) Sad that he was in Allahabad for Kumbh mela (did not see him).
Then we stayed in Darmadsala. And this was the day india had the massive earthquake that hit Gujarat and surroundings in 2001. We did not feel it but i saw the water from the swimming pool was splashing out as though the whole pool was rocked. Then we thought something wrong with the pool and did nothing.
Then we drove along the hills and visited monasteries and wend to Punjab. Stayed there and went the holy Amritstar temple. Was very near to the Waga Boarder and then we came back to Delhi. We heard about the earth quake but was not told how bad it was until I reach KL
Legends: Parvati (Karpakambal) in the form of a peacock, Mayil is said to have worshipped Shiva (in a legend similar to that at Mayiladuturai), hence the name Mylapore. There are several literary works associated with this hoary shrine, which remains today, a seat of Tamil culture. The Poompaavai Patikam composed by Sambandar is associated with this temple & he is said to have brought back to life, Poompavai the daughter of a devotee of Shiva - Sivanesa Chettiar. This event is enacted on the 8th day of the annual festival in the month of Pankuni (Pisces).
The Malaysian government has warned it could use tough anti-terrorism laws against bloggers who insult Islam or the country's king.
The move comes as one of Malaysia's leading online commentators has been questioned by police following a complaint by the main governing party.
The new rules would allow a suspect to be detained indefinitely, without being charged or put on trial.
But officials insist the law is not intended to strangle internet freedom.
Deputy Prime Minister Najib Razak told The Straits Times that the move was aimed at getting some moderation in postings on the internet, especially on sensitive issues: "Some people feel that they have crossed the line, in making racist remarks," he said.
But the BBC's Jonathan Kent in Kuala Lumpur says the government also appears increasingly concerned about the growing online criticism of its record.
Raja Petra Kamarudin, the editor of one of Malaysia's most popular political websites, Malaysia Today, turned himself in to police on Wednesday, to answer allegations that he had mocked Islam and threatened racial harmony.
Raja Petra is known for his frequent criticism of Prime Minister Abdullah Ahmad Badawi and other government figures.
"I was alleged to have insulted the king, and also Islam and incite racial hatred, so I am going in there to reply to all these charges. I promise I'm going to give them a hell of a tough time," he told the BBC before he turned himself in.
He defended his website, saying: "Many people, especially the non-Malays in this country, do not have a forum to air their views."
"We should not deny these people a chance to vent their feelings," he said.
Malaysia Today is believed to attract around a quarter of a million visitors a day, giving it more readers than most Malaysian newspapers.
The BBC's correspondent says that with a general election on the horizon, the government seems keen to send a signal to its online critics that it will only tolerate so much.
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
I am not new to airports and flying been flying for many years. But recently as I was waiting for my flight, I was hungry and went to shop for some food ...
The moment I see the price, I was not hungry anymore .... Nasi Lemak that cost about RM3.00 (since it is said SPECIAL) was sold at RM8.00 and the mineral water that I can get at about RM1.50 was being sold at RM3.90.
My advice to Malaysians .... eat all you can at home before coming to KLIA
Monday, July 23, 2007
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
(Xinhua)Updated: 2006-10-01 09:44
The new Guangzhou-Lhasa train service linking the South China metropolis with the capital city of southwestern Tibet Autonomous Region will go into commercial operation on October 2, the second day of the holiday week celebrating the National Day.
The 4,980-kilometer journey will take 57 hours and 21 minutes.
Sources with Guangzhou Railway Group said that three trains fitted with state-of-the art equipment will be used for the new service.
Besides ventilation, water supply, electricity generation and central heating fittings, trains will carry oxygen supply and anti-frigidity equipment, the sources said.
The trains, departing every other day, will have 15 carriages including two soft sleeping berth carriages, seven hard sleeping berth carriages, four hard seaters and one dining carriage. Each train can transport 863 people.
Sichuan, Guangdong and Hunan style dishes, as well as Western and Muslim-style dishes, will be available in the 40-seat dining carriage, which can stay open around the clock and be used to hold small parties.
A hard sleeping berth will cost 896 yuan (113 US dollars) and a soft berth 1,434 yuan (182 US dollars).
The 302 train stewards for the Guangzhou-Lhasa railway services have been taught about Tibetan customs and can speak a little Tibetan, Mongolian, Tu and Sala.
Tourism to Tibet has surged since the 1,956-kilometer-long Qinghai-Tibet Railway went into operation on July 1.
What the legal experts, politicians say / PM: Muslim countries cannot remain mere spectators
KUALA LUMPUR (July 17, 2007): Deputy Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Abdul Razak said today Malaysia is not a secular state, but an Islamic state driven by the fundamentals of Islam.
"Islam is the official religion and Malaysia is an Islamic state, an Islamic state that respects the rights of the non-Muslims and we protect them," he said when asked to comment on concerns that Malaysia was moving from a secular government to an Islamic State and whether is Malaysia is one.
"I want to correct you (reporter), that we have never never been a secular state. Secular by Western definition means separation of the Islamic principles in the way we govern the country.
"But we have never abdicated from those principles. Malaysia have been always been driven by, and adhere to the fundamentals of Islam ... so your (reporter) premise is wrong," he said.
He was speaking to reporters after opening the Institute of Islamic Understanding Malaysia (IKIM)'s two-day international conference themed The Role of Islamic States In A Globalised World.
Earlier, Najib read Prime Minister Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi speech.
To another question, Najib said the federal constitution provides Islam as the official religion in Malaysia and it does not want to stereotype to western definition of secular, non-secular, Islamic or non-Islamic.
When told that opposition party PAS has a different perception of an Islamic state, Najib said: "PAS has its own version and we have our own interpretation."
Asked on concerns that after Malaysia took over the chairmanship of OIC, nothing much was done to solve the problems in Iraq, Najib said there are two sides to OIC.
"One is an economic face which takes initiatives to hold forum and conferences in Malaysia for young entreprenuers and women.
"The other side about Iraq involves major powers. Our ability to influence the major powers are somehow limited."
On another matter concerning the free trade agreement with the United States, he said discussions are still on going and he was not sure if everything can be concluded before the expiry of the present US congress' term of office.
However, Malaysia is not tied down to any time frame, he said, adding the discussions do not involve domestic policies, including that on bumiputras.
What the legal experts, politicians say
Husna Yusop and Giam Say Khoon
PETALING JAYA (July 17, 2007): Is Malaysia an Islamic or a secular state? Some constitutional law experts and organisations have different views on this.
Bar Council president Ambiga Sreenevasan:
"Malaysia is a secular state, not an Islamic state. The law is clear about this whereby the supreme court in a 1998 case decided by Lord President Tun Salleh Abbas stated clearly: we are a secular state and the civil court administers secular law.
"Certainly, Islam receives special treatment in the Federal Constitution but that does not mean Malaysia is an Islamic state.
"It does not follow from the provision in Article 3(1) of the Federal Constitution that we are an Islamic state in the legal term.
"Going back to the time of our founding fathers and the Reid Commission report, it is clear we were not meant to be an Islamic state. Taking this position today is contrary to our consititutional history.
"We believe there is a misunderstanding that can be resolved by looking closely at the constitution."
International Islamic University Malaysia lecturer Prof Dr Abdul Aziz Bari:
"Malaysia is not a secular state because Islam has been put as the "religion of the Federation" by Article 3(1).
"But, it is acceptable to say Malaysia is "an Islamic nation with its own interpretation." Given the sensitivities and ignorance of both Muslims and non-Muslims, such is understandable.
"Because, even for a country like United Kingdom, with good policies, orderly system and humane laws, it can be Islamic in that sense."
Universiti Teknologi Mara lecturer Prof Dr Shad Saleem Faruqi:
"Malaysia is never secular but at the same time, it is not an Islamic state. We are neither here nor there.
"We walk the middle path. But this is not something we should be ashamed of. Instead, it is a pride.
"Malaysia was always promoting Islam. In line with this, it is clear that Malaysia was never neutral on the issue of religion.
"But we have never emphasised on ideological purity. We are not a theocratic state.
The constitution is the supreme law of the nation. So, it does not permit a conclusion that we are a full-fledged Islamic state.
"To me, there is no need to adopt a black or white agreement. There are shades of grey. We are a hybrid state. Our system are all mixed.
"We are a Muslim nation whereby Muslims are in control, but not in the legal way. "And actually, there is no prototype or ideal model of an Islamic state in the world. Not even Pakistan or Saudi Arabia, as they do have customs which have nothing to do with Islam."
MCA Youth chief Datuk Liow Tiong Lai
The Federal Constitution's tenet has always been that Malaysia is a secular state, and not an Islamic state.
Although the official religion is Islam, the people can practise other religions.
Najib's statement that Malaysia is an Islamic should not be taken literally but in a general sense that it is an Islamic country, where the majority of the population is Muslim.
Malaysia is an Islamic country, which has a Muslim majority population and which is a member of the Organisation of the Islamic Conference; it is not an Islamic state which practises theocracy.
MCA deputy president Datuk Seri Chan Kong Choy, reported as saying at the MCA general assembly last year
MCA recognises that Malaysia is an 'Islamic country', like Indonesia and Turkey. 'Islamic states' are like Pakistan, Saudi Arabia and Sudan, where all the administration is based on the Quran.
MCA would go all out to protect the Federal Constitution and would never be slack about this. Because of this, the Kelantan government could not implement its Hudud laws.
Opposition Leader and DAP member of Parliament for Ipoh Timur Lim Kit Siang
Najib's statement is a unilateral, arbitrary and unconstitutional revision of the fundamental principles of nation-building agreed by the forefathers of the major communities on the founding of the nation.
It is agreed that while Islam is the official religion of the federation, Malaya and later Malaysia is not an Islamic state, whether of the PAS or Umno variety.
Tunku said at his 80th birthday celebration organised by the Barisan Nasional in1983: "The Constitution must be respected and adhered to. There have been attempts by some people who tried to introduce religious laws and morality laws. This cannot be allowed.
"The country has a multi-racial population with various beliefs. Malaysia must continue as a secular state with Islam as the official religion."
Former prime minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad said Malaysia is an Islamic state on Sept 29, 2001, when Umno did badly in the general election, as a gambit to fend off the PAS challenge to the Malay heartland.
The Merdeka social contract has become a political pawn when political parties or leaders find it expedient to manipulate it to shore up political support.
PM: Muslim countries cannot remain mere spectators
KUALA LUMPUR (July 17, 2007): Muslim countries cannot remain mere spectators but need to seek a more active role in the world that is rapidly moving ahead.
In giving Muslim states a wake-up call, Prime Minister Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi today outlined four imperatives for Islamic states to reclaim the golden legacy of the Islamic era.
"We must commit ourselves to enhancing our competitiveness in order to play a contributing role to the advancement of human civilisation," he said.
In his address at the Institute of Islamic Understanding Malaysia's (IKIM) international conference on "The Role of Islamic States in a Globalised World" here, Abdullah said Muslim states should:
renew the spirit of unity among muslims;
revive their economic position;
invest in education and skills, and building a knowledgeable society; and
establish social justice based on timeless Islamic principles.
In his speech delivered by Deputy Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Abdul Razak, Abdullah said Islam is a global faith that binds many people the world over in a common bond.
"And yet, we find ourselves pitted against each other; Sunnis against Shias, liberals against fundamentals and most tragically, even the Palestinians against Palestinians."
In this context, he said Muslims must also renew their understanding of Islam and put aside any sectarian differences which could lead to division and conflict among them.
"Ultimately, we must begin to move beyond politics and conflict, and focus on the issues that truly concern us as an ummah -- tackling poverty, eliminating illiteracy, combating ignorance and raising the quality of life," he said.
Abdullah, who is the current chairman of the Organisation of Islamic Countries (OIC), asked how muslim countries were going to account for the fact that despite being so blessed with natural resources, today they largely remain poor and backward.
As it stands, the Muslims' share of the global economy is poor, Abdullah lamented.
In 2005, he said OIC's collective gross domestic product was less than 5% of the total world figure while intra-trade volume (at about USD800 billion) was only about 6% to 7% of total global trade.
Worse, he said, OIC recorded declining share of trade within developing countries, which clearly shows that Muslim states need to engineer a massive turn-a-round, if it wants to recover in the economic arena.
Abdullah said unfortunately, the reality today is that Muslim countries are woefully unprepared to face the challenges of globalisation.
Some Muslims, he said, have even begun to see globalisation as a conspiracy to undermine Islam, leading many of them to espouse radical views and even commit extremist acts, while others remain resigned to their sorry fate, deprived and dejected.
Abdullah said however that Muslim states need to realise that the phenomenon of globalisation is here to stay.
"Simply opposing globalisation -- adopting the attitude of withdrawal or taking the path of obscurantism -- is clearly not a wise option. In fact it is not an option at all," he added.
Updated: 07:34PM Tue, 17 Jul 2007
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Last week I was invited to go to my friends orchid to search and collect durians at about 11.00 pm. As that is the time there will be lots of durian fall. If he don't collect it then most probably it might get stolen. We went there with full pants (to protect from mosquito's and insects) and some of us had a construction helmet.
There were not many durians found that day but when I was there I witness (as in hearing) 2 durian fall. I also visited the pond full of water lily and lotus. There were also rambutan and mangosteen in the orchard.
Note: You cannot pluck durian from the tree. It is ripe when it falls from the tree
Monday, July 16, 2007
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
http://www.malaysia kini.com/ news/69734
Bloodshed in Parliament
Jul 10, 07 4:46pm
There was mass slaughtering on the Parliament grounds today and several MPs saw red, both literally and figuratively, over the incident. Those responsible, the Barisan Nasional Backbenchers Club (BBC), claimed that it was done with good intentions but some of their peers begged to differ.
Under tents set up at the motorcycle parking zone, six cows and 10 goats were slaughtered for a dinner function tonight. The dinner, scheduled to take place at the Parliament's banquet hall, is to celebrate Prime Minister Abdullah Ahmad Badawi's marriage to Jeanne Abdullah
In the Dewan Rakyat, opposition MPs aired their disapproval over the bloodshed and accused their BN counterparts of ignoring the sensitivity of other religions. "This is the first time such an incident has happened in Parliament. Furthermore, cows are sacred to Hindus," lamented M Kulasegaran (DAP-Ipoh Barat).
However, Speaker Ramli Ngah Talib reasoned that "it (slaughtering) is a common practice and not unusual during dinners."
Following this, Fong Po Kuan (DAP-Batu Gajah) said she was shocked when she saw the animals being brought into the Parliament grounds in a truck. "If it a common practice, will it be acceptable for other MPs to slaughter 'other' animals here?" she asked. Kulasegaran then urged the Speaker not to allow such an incident to recur and Ramli promised to look into it.
BBC chief grilled
Meanwhile, BBC chairperson Raja Ahmad Zainuddin Raja Omar (BN-Larut) explained that the dinner was organised with good intentions and BBC never meant to hurt anyone.
"This is first time that a PM has married. In fact this is history and we are celebrating the wedding," he said, adding that the meat would also be given as alms to nearby mosques.
"We did it with noble intentions," he said, adding that prior approval was obtained from Parliament officials to carry out the slaughter.
"We are parliamentarians. Where else can we organise the dinner if not in Parliament? Is it wrong? This is a simple issue, I hope the media will not make it a big issue," he said. Raja Ahmad, who appeared calm in the beginning became visibly agitated when journalists pounded him with questions as to why the slaughtering could not have been done elsewhere.
This lead a journalist to respond: "I believe it is not so. Once they slaughtered cattle on a school ground in Selangor but parents wrote in to object and it was not repeated ever since." Ahmad just shook his head and refused to comment on this.
In a related development, BBC member K Devamany (BN-Cameron Highlands) gave his assurance that such incidents would not happen again. "I was not at the meeting when the dinner was planned, and I got to know about it only a few days ago. Although we cannot undo what has already been done, we can abstain from doing it in future," he said.
More than 1,000 people, including Deputy Prime Minister Najib Abdul Razak, cabinet ministers and MPs from both BN and the opposition, are expected to attend the dinner.
The Sun version: Slaughter of animals in august place riles MPs
KUALA LUMPUR (July 10, 2007): A decision by backbenchers to slaughter six head of cattle and 10 goats in the compound of Parliament House to celebrate Prime Minister Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad's marriage annoyed other MPs.
"I am objecting to this on two grounds. This is Parliament. How can we allow the slaughter of animals in the compound? Should this not be done in an abattoir?" M. Kulasegaran (DAP-Ipoh Barat) asked Speaker Tan Sri Ramli Ngah Talib just after question time. "Morever, this slaugher of cattle is sensitive to Hindus. Surely you should have thought about this aspect before allowing it."
Ramli's response was that the animals were slaughtered for the kenduri hosted by the Backbenchers Club (BBC) to celebrate the marriage of Abdullah to Jeanne.
When Kulasegaran said he was aware of the reason but that the slaughter should not be allowed, Ramli said any similar request in the future would be looked at carefully. "I don't see why there should be any objection to this. This is norm (slaughter animals) whenever there is a kenduri. Therefore, it is not an unusual practice," Ramli said.
Fong Po Kuan (DAP-Batu Gajah) begged to differ. "This is an august place. We use this place for meetings. If next time, the Opposition wants to slaughter other animals then what happens?" she asked. "Even though it is a norm by BBC, it does not mean it is correct. And it should not be continued."
Fong said non-Muslim MPs are sensitive to the religious beliefs of others that they were "even careful with the type of food they brought into the parliament building". She said this should be reciprocated. Ramli brought the discussion to a close by promising that the House would be careful in similar requests in the future.
Acting BNBBC chairman Datuk Raja Ahmad Zainuddin Raja Omar (BN-Larut) told reporters in the lobby of the Dewan Rakyat that the backbenchers decided on the kenduri after he was given the go-ahead by the parliament administration.
"We only did it after the House gave us permission. The place was decided by the parliament," he said. "Where else are we supposed to do it anyway? We are members of Parliament, we are entitled to do it here," he declared.
A Hindu BNBBC committee member S.K.Devamany (BN-Cameron Highlands), met in the lobby said he did not know of the planned slaughter. "I was not at the meeting when it was decided. By the time I came to know of it. All the arrangements were put in place." Devamany vowed to ensure that in future it will not happen again.
My Comment: Malaysia BOLEH .... Another record for Guiness perhaps?
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
The tallest building in Penang ...the KOMTAR We saw lots of Jelly Fish as we were on the way to mainland....this is the first time for me
The Penang Bridge
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Baru-baru ini kita melihat perkembangan terbaru dalam dunia perubatan Malaysia mengenai bank sperma. Setakat ini dilaporkan bahawa ia banyak dijalankan oleh hospital swasta. Persatuan Mahasiswa Islam Universiti Putra Malaysia (PMIUPM) memandang serius perkara tersebut dan menyarankan agar ianya diteliti dengan serapi-rapinya.
Majlis Fatwa Kebangsaan telah mengharamkan perkhidmatan bank sperma. Tetapi setakat ini tiada peruntukan undang-undang yang menghalang hospital swasta daripada menawarkan sperma kepada pasangan yang tidak subur untuk mendapatkan zuriat.
Satu undang-undang mengenainya perlu digubal untuk mengelak kekeliruan di kalangan masyarakat, khususnya di kalangan umat Islam.
PMIUPM mengucapkan kepada Ketua Pengarah Kesihatan, Tan Sri Dr Ismail Merican yang telah mengarahkan Kementerian Kesihatan memperincikan segala aspek berhubung perkara itu, termasuk dari perspektif agama, moral, institusi keluarga dan etika. Ini kerana isu berkenaan amat sensitif.
Setakat ini dilaporkan hospital swasta terbabit banyak menjalankan pemindahan sperma kepada pelanggan yang bukan beragama Islam. Namun, perkara yang membimbangkan ialah ramai juga pasangan beragama Islam turut memohon untuk pemindahan sperma. Mujurlah ianya tidak dilayan.
Penelitian yang cukup rapi mesti dilakukan segera. Yang paling penting ialah Kementerian Kesihatan hendaklah memastikan ia betul-betul dirujuk dengan ulama yang muktabar (terkemuka). Isu ini melibatkan persoalan nasab (keturunan). Yang amat dibimbangkan ialah berlakunya pemindahan sperma individu yang tidak mempunyai perhubungan yang halal. Perkara ini boleh merosak dan mencelarukan sistem masyarakat pada hari ini.
Kebimbangan ini turut dikongsi oleh Presiden Persatuan Perubatan Islam, Prof Madya Dr Abdul Latiff Mohamad yang berkata, sehingga ini belum ada akta diwujudkan bagi menjelaskan kesahihan bank sperma ini kepada masyarakat. Ini sekaligus mengundang kontroversi serta kekeliruan di kalangan umat Islam. Jadi di sini jelas sekali kerajaan perlu mewujudkan akta yang sesuai bagi menyelesaikan kecelaruan isu ini.
Penulis adalah Bendahari PMIUPM.
Taken from Forwarded Mail
It is important the right group to be formed to study it to make it legal ( I am not saying it is illegal now, but legal in the term, the services can be made official and open )
I know many non-muslim couples that needs a child and in Malaysia we cannot have a foreign at adoption. At least this will solve the matter.
Fatwa can be imposed on muslims and may not restrict the medical centers from providing the service to non-muslims
I think it is your call Datuk Sharizat.
(a) March over, wedging yourself in between your partner and the other person as you introduce yourself.
(b) Trust your partner will not take it past innocent flirting, but keep one eye on the situation anyway.
(c) Catch the eye of your partner, give them a smile, a wink, and a toast and hope they are having fun.
The fine art of innocent flirting has created many an after-party fight. Some people feel their partner should be giving all that attention exclusively to them instead of someone else. But what would happen if we began to see flirting as creating an abundance of good couple energy?
One afternoon while having coffee with a friend, I explained how I not only encourage my partner to flirt, I teach him the fine art of flirting. Perplexed, she asked why on earth would I teach my partner to flirt. Fair question with a super-easy answer: I trust him 110 percent.
Ever since my partner emerged out of his I-can't-look-at-any-other-woman box with the freedom to flirt, he feels better about himself. He feels and acts sexy. He is more fun to be around. The end result is our relationship is stronger and healthier because he brings that positive energy home to me. The irony is that he does not really even flirt. It's simply that he has been given a pass-card to flirt that has made all the difference.
I could see my friend nodding her head in agreement. I asked, "Why don't you try flirting?" A tiny look of terror crossed her face. She then uttered the words that many people say when I broach the topic of flirting: "My partner wouldn't like it."
Undaunted, I pressed the issue, "Why?" She started squirming, as if she was to divulge dark bedroom secrets, and replied, "He's just not that secure and quite frankly neither am I. I wouldn't like it if I saw another woman flirting with him." The conversation was uncomfortably dropped.
A little jealousy is good
Innocent flirting, to me, is like window shopping. It is the catalyst to get a spark going in a relationship. To successfully take a healthy relationship over the long term, I strongly believe everyone should flirt. Flirt with each other, flirt with other people, and allow other people to flirt with you. It creates such great "happy couple" energy.
If flirting is so great, why don't people do it more often? Probably the green-eyed monster -- jealously --pops to mind first. Well, let us turn this idea of jealousy on its head. Believe it or not, a little jealousy affirms the affection within your relationship. Jealousy indicates there is excitement. That said, a well-balanced individual in a healthy relationship will not twist their jealously into a full-blown fight.
Make a flirting agreement
However, a big part of successful flirting is having a mutual agreement about what is acceptable and unacceptable in your relationship. Which means you must decide what flirting means to you, and communicate this to each other.
Start out with baby steps. For example, at a party, flirt only while your partner is present. Next level, your partner is across the room but in view. You know you have reached the flirting pinnacle when you can look at your partner flirting and having a wonderful time with someone else and feel happy for him or her.
Finally, flirting stays at the door when you two go home together. All that positive, sexy energy you have created from flirting should take you into a fabulous, fun night together.
Dr. Trina Read has a doctorate in human sexuality. She is an international speaker and offers a free audio sex tip weekly on her web site trinaread.com/t-sextips
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Taken from ; http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/1981/give-your-partner-a-flirting-pass;_ylc=X3oDMTI0dGVrYTM3BF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEc2VjA2ZwX3RvZGF5BHNsawNnaXZlLXlvdXItcGFydG5lci1hLWZsaXJ0aW5nLXBhc3MEenoDYWJj
BARE TRUTH: These two pictures — one taken in 1968 (top) and the other in 2007 — show the retreating Rongbuk Glacier of Mount Everest on the Tibetan plateau. The rugged Tibet plateau, seen as a sensitive barometer of the impact of global warming, is experiencing accelerating glacial melt and other ecological changes. The mountainous region’s glaciers have been melting at an annual average rate of 131.4 square km over the last 30 years
Saturday, July 07, 2007
During a conversation on a mail with my friend in Sweden, she said now days many have moved into blogging. I agreed and the point that I thought of was, the modern life has lost the value of human relationship and human to human communication. That they have resort to talking to computers in hope that the others will read it. This is one way of the way they off load the stress and emotion and mind boiling matters which we in past talk to our close friends and family and share the load. How much does this happen now? And how much the person to person communication is in effect now days? I guess we have now moved to talk to computers.